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Originally Posted by Graham Isn't this like asking whether you should do drops? If you want to do drops, don't dance with someone who doesn't want to perform them. Similarly, if you don't want to give up the lead, don't dance with a partner who likes to take control from time to time. Like ChrisA says, should doesn't really come into it. |
Maybe all dancers should agree a safety word at the beginning of a dance that they can use when they're being taken out of their comfort zone...
So, Gadge, you can use it if you don't like to submit to the lady taking command from time to time....
Sometimes I change the tempo & take more beats to do a Return, or add some more spins, or overturn a Return & stick a Ronde onto the end, or spot a break & wiggle for a second. That's not Leading. It's playing.
Sometimes I do a Sabotage Move like turning a Loophole (Octopus) into a Tandem, or a Fig of 8 (I turn/you turn) Resistor. That's stealing the Lead for a tiny amount of time, but I expect the man to take it back straight away.
And sometimes, with only a few consenting partners, we actually switch roles during the dance. Like Tazmanian Devil says, it's easier when you're dancing with another woman who knows both roles, but you do get the rare and precious odd man who's happy to follow.
