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Originally Posted by spindr ...
The lead is supposed to be an invitation -- the follower can accept or decline -- if they accept they do something that matches the invitation.
If they decline, lead something else.
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Agreed, however, this comes down to the fundemental of what lead is .... and what leading is not.
I fully agree that leading is not:
"This is what I'm demanding that you, how to do it, and where and when to finish it!"
This is simply exerting overt control.
I propose that it is not the other extreme either:
"I'm inviting you to do this. However, what you do, how you do it, and where you end up (anywhere on the dance floor) is completely and entirely up to you" [Try this with a beginner!!]
For me, leading necessarily includes the invitation, and politely asks for a destination (I really need to know where my follow is going to end up, otherwise I will struggle with my next lead!).However, leave the choice of move, how this do it and timing up to my follow.
Some self-help book somewhere describes:
Leading as deciding direction and destination, and
Management as how to achieve the above.
Where I do want to lead my follow, I don't want to manage her.
Make sense?
I hope so!
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