I've been meaning to post something on leading and following for ages, but never get the time to write it. But I've just found these articles that seem to say virtually everything I want to say (certainly about leading)
http://lindyhopping.com/leader.html http://lindyhopping.com/follower.html
They are written with lindyhoppers in mind, so not everything might apply to jivers. (There are subtle differences in leading and following between all the popular styles.) But they are definitely worth reading.
David