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Originally posted by DavidB
My main aim in dancing it to have fun. For that to happen only takes 4 things
- a reasonable floor (something between ice and glue)
- liking the music
- feeling safe (ie someone is not going to take my head off doing an aerial)
- letting my partner enjoy herself
David |
I like this.
I was thinking how I try to let my partner enjoy herself. Amonst other obvious things, I do this by responding to what you can determine are her needs or likes. You are quite right not to triple spin a lady who does not like it (or dip a lady who has expressed a preference).
What I also tend to do is to "feel" how the lady is following my signals. If she is getting every one right (ie our "dialects" or Modern Jive seem similar) then I will increase the complexity including adding in special footwork with or without the "dreaded whisper" until I have got her pitch and then probably slacken off a bit and enjoy the rest of the dance or two. This way I am giving the lady a dance inside her ability and confort zone but exercising her talent too (assuming of course that she is not one of those that is way ahead of me!). After all one can tell immediately if you are dancing with a beginner (hand is shaking!) or someone who does not like sultry moves (she created her distance on the wiggles), and an intermediate (can do a neck break or pretzel or something like that).
So we just need to respond with our lead to her response!", and I think that this is possible even if we have never danced with the lady before.