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Originally Posted by DavidJames It's figuring out when she's stopped playing, basically. |
Here's a little game to play - I'd suggest doing it at a practica, rather than a milonga to start with.
With a partner, in practice hold, start by leading a simple walk forwards and backwards. As you walk your partner should try to take over the lead - using intention rather than force (a request rather than an order). As soon as you sense that your partner wants to take over you relinquish the lead and become the follower. Keep repeating the lead swop. When it's starting to work try doing the same thing but without any physical contact between you. (Look: No Hands!)
Next step is to do the same thing but instead of waiting for your partner to take over the lead try suggesting that you want to relinquish the lead. As soon as your partner senses your "offer" then she should accept it. Keep repeating it until you can both feel how to "offer the lead" to your partner and what it feels like to be "offered the lead" and how to let your partner know that you are accepting it. Again, do the same but without physical contact.
When you've got the exercise working reasonably well start to concentrate on making the transfer of lead smooth and almost imperceptible.
It's an interesting exercise and has helped me to develop a sensitivity to when my partner wants to play and when they want to put their toys away. I find it helps in MJ as well as I'm more aware of my partner's "intention".