[jivecat]

The only times I have trouble with close contact is if I'm not really enjoying the dance or there's something else about my partner that makes me feel a bit uncomfortable, for example if their lead is too strong and I feel forced into it. I don't mind dancing close with complete strangers if there's a sense of connection.

If I'm really enjoying myself then I am very happy to have multiple dances without assuming there is any ulterior motive other than enjoying the dance, and I would be a bit upset if it was assumed that I had an ulterior motive. With partners that I'm having a really good time with it's often better to have 2 or 3 dances, go off and dance with other people for a bit then have a few more dances. That way it gives everyone plenty of freedom and avoids me getting bored with them or they with me.

If I've had enough after say, two dances, it's easy enough to step back decisively and say thank you in a pleasant but assertive kind of way. Most people will pick up the signal without you having to give an explanation.

Glad you enjoyed it so much! Hope to see you in a blues room somewhere soon! x Heather.