| I'm hardly "experienced" but am always flattered and pleased if (just about) ANY man asks me to dance.
But it can be difficult, this has been discussed elsewhere but I'll comment cos I have an example to relate from last night.
A chap asked me to dance and I know he has only been dancing for a couple of months. He rarely smiles at the best of times and says very little, which makes it all the more difficult when my instinct is to interact and encourage and "help" if there is something I can point out or suggest etc.
anyway...this guy kept grabbing my LEFT hand and trying to put me into moves that are ~normally~ led by the right and so I was all over the place over balancing and not turning well etc
Once I figured out what he was doing I tried to keep my left hand behind my back and present the right with a smile and a flourish but I'm sure he thought I was useless!!!
So what's a girl to do with a guy like that?
This is probably going to be the wrong place to ask (unless teachers can advise) because the guys who are going to post on here are all likely to be the ones who would LIKE the guidance on the night if they did something like that "wrongly" and would take it in and probably not make the mistake again but with someone who seemed so uncommunicative I felt like I just had to grin and bear it.
I suppose for you B1970 it's going to be a case of suck it and see, I'm SURE you will find friendly experienced women who are delighted to dance your 5 1/2 moves and would be equally delighted to suggest and teach another or a variation to help you along, especially if you are as enthusiastic as you seem to be because at the end of the day (or year maybe) today's beginner is tomorrows BTC!!! and we would all do well to remember that!
Yes, I would have to be honest and say I do like to choose to dance with good guys, so I can learn and improve and be challenged by a variety of moves (G-man, I WILL get that sit thing next time!!!!) and because I personally will dance much better feeding off the good lead. So in summary, it's like so many other things in life and it's all about getting the balance right IMHO.
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