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Originally posted by Aleks
I'd like to know if the men also have experience of vice-like grips and steel arms....does your lead need to change with the follower?? |
Definitely. The grip of death is quite rare, but the strong arm is unfortunately too common. The other problem some ladies have is a need to move from one spot to another really quick, and then expect the man to stop them and pull them back. Sorry - it is called 'leading', not 'hammer throwing' or 'tug of war'.
My lead does change. If the lady insists on gripping my hand, I will start leading her from the back or side of her hand, or her wrist, or her back or shoulders - ie anywhere but her fingers. 30 seconds or so later I'll try the hand again and she usually relaxes. I'm not sure whether it is changing her technique, or just confusing her, but it makes it better for me.
If the lady really pulls my hand I can do two things. I can keep a lot closer to her, and let her pull my hand. But just my hand goes, not the rest of my body. Or I can let go of the normal grip, and place my hand on top of hers. If she pulls away, she just goes. In order to keep the connection she has to control her own momentum.
(I tend to do these leads with everyone now - the good followers and the bad. It just seems to give me a lot more options, and adds a bit of variety to the dance. Ladies - please don't assume I'm criticising your following if I do any of these leads.)
David