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Originally posted by DavidB
Definitely. The grip of death is quite rare, but the strong arm is unfortunately too common. The other problem some ladies have is a need to move from one spot to another really quick, and then expect the man to stop them and pull them back. Sorry - it is called 'leading', not 'hammer throwing' or 'tug of war'.
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I find all three are not that uncommon. The strong arm I used to find quite scary as I'm not very strong and my muscles would ache easily after a couple of dances with a 'strong arm'.
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| If the lady insists on gripping my hand, I will start leading her from the back or side of her hand, or her wrist, or her back or shoulders - ie anywhere but her fingers. |
I've only learnt this hold recently and find it a godsend (hand over the lady's, as if gripping her wrist, but sliding down to the back of her hand). I find it a great way of giving a delicate lead, but unfortunately more appreciated by experienced ladies[/b][/quote]
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Ladies - please don't assume I'm criticising your following if I do any of these leads.) |
Which is a still worry I have if I use it . . .
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Originally posted by Forte
It can be quite scary when a really good male dancer makes you dance out of your skin and do moves you haven't done before
But scary in a good way - mostly!
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And good fun for the leader who has the pleasure of your expression of shocked delight! Find this works best with intermediates and beginners and more advanced dancers that a) do a lot of blues and/or b) don't mostly dance with a regular partner. Sometimes they can be very resistant to being 'led' (and even one try can cause them to feel put off sadly)
