[JamesGeary]

Watch people with good control and try and imitate it.

I like watching tai-chi. Amazing control.

Or swap between dancing with someone with great control and someone with no control, several times, and feel the difference, then try and apply that understanding to your own dancing.

i.e. placing your hands and legs rather than putting your hands and legs

Its like an ice skater with great control makes no noise as they skate because each skate touches or is placed on the ice (the skate has no velocity at point of contact), rather than is just stamped there. Beginners stomp their skates on the ice and you can hear the difference.

Try going through part of a move in real slow motion while maintaining control throughout the entire movement.

If you're balanced and in control then you should probably be able to stop the movement at any point, almost instantly with no wavering. Amir was teaching an exercise in musicality using this approach.