Loads of good advice - thanks all.
Something else I tried on Monday to help with this, was to actually try dancing the woman's part. Yes, I know, next it'll be admitting how comfortable silk underwear is, experimenting with make-up, volunteering to demo with Franck
....well, hang on, I'd have to draw a line somewhere
But seriously, it did show me just how difficult it is for women learning - I was hopeless at everything other than an Octopus - and I'll be more patient in future.
And thanks to Wendy and Janet for letting me try dancing the other part on Monday (though I think they were repayed with a right good laugh at my expense! :sorry )