I really want the men to learn to truly lead whatever comes into their heads, so they can relax and get into the music, and I can get into the zone.
I try to meticulously follow, so the man learns what he is leading me to do but....
If a man is really struggling and asks for help, I will tell him which bit I think is going wrong and then help by giving a very gentle squeeze of the hand that he needs to raise up or keep hold of during a move.
If he wants me to completely lead then would maybe do it once , but it feels so wrong. Beyond that I would offer to be the man while he is the lady. So far they have always looked horrified and said 'no thanks'.
Although now I realise from the forum there are quite a few men who really like to be led.
.....I think I might stop offering that option, just in case. If I was put on the spot I would definitely get it wrong (and much worse than them).
