Thread: Would you mind
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Old 6th-September-2004, 04:03 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Re: Would you mind

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Originally Posted by Chicklet
"but I'm acknowledging that you "had em" first"
That is exactly the problem. The question, directed to the other person rather than the person you want to dance with implies possession. So, while it may be polite to the other person, it is rude towards the person you want to dance with. After all, you are giving the impression that the person you'd like to dance with cannot or is not allowed to make that decision.

I know, I have been told by girls that this is a female way of 'non-intrusiveness'. Can't speak for guys, haven't witnessed it.

So really, the possession part of it is rather disturbing, don't you think?
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