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Originally Posted by Feelingpink When someone else later tried holding my wrist overly firmly throughout a whole dance and I said at the end he was hurting me, he explained it was a swing hold. [etc] |
Personally, I confess I do tend to have a quite defensive knee-jerk reaction to this sort of feedback, especially when it appears to conflict with something I've been (mis)taught elsewhere, or something someone else has recommended. It's only when I reflect later, after the heat of the moment, that I can really take on board what was said, and try to make sense of it in the context of other things I've learnt.
Please don't give up on your calm assertive approach, just because the immediate reaction isn't very encouraging. I'd bet that you had more effect than you realise.