Eye Contact

[Lory]

Originally posted by Pete
In that case I'll be the one with his eyes tightly shut energetically jumping up and down to test the springiness of the 'sprung floor'. Boing! Boing!

Ever seen the Magic roundabout?

[spindr]

I think eye-contact really helps (as does smiling) --- other than collision avoidance and the odd pose --- why wouldn't you be looking at/around your partner.

On the (sadly) rare occasions that it happens, a shared focussed gaze can almost act as an extra virtual lead. And if both partners focus on each other and circle around, then you'll find that the rest of the dancefloor will just fade away (okay, actually it'll blur due to parallax and other optical effects, but why spoil the romance ) -- at least until one of you gets dizzy.

SpinDr.

[Jayne]

Originally posted by JamesGeary
Eye contact you can just do. Play a game where you look at her pupil then her iris color, then the whites, then a the bridge of her nose, then her eyelashes. Then do it again but change your sequence. Then keep doing this trying to do a different sequence each time, mathematically there are 32 of them. It'll probably take 8 tracks until you can finish without making a mistake.

Only smile if you feel like it.

mmmm... do you still do this James?

Having danced with you, I'm just wondering... (who said anything about paranoia???)

J :timid mouse eyes:

[Pete]

Originally posted by Lory
Ever seen the Magic roundabout?

'Time for Bed!'

[Lory]

Look into my eyes.......I know it's scary but the more u do it the easier it gets!

[spindr]

Originally posted by Lory
Look into my eyes.......I know it's scary but the more u do it the easier it gets!

Wow, definitely got to get in to London more

SpinDr

[Pete]

Originally posted by Lory
Look into my eyes.......I know it's scary but the more u do it the easier it gets!

Eeek!!

[Emma]

meep! :S

[ChrisA]

Originally posted by Lory
Look into my eyes.......I know it's scary but the more u do it the easier it gets!

Next time we dance, Lory, I will be looking closely - to see if you really do have one brown eye and one green eye

Interestingly (to me at least), as the page with your pic came up, I saw the pic first (cos it kinda grabs the attention ), and thought "that's Lory" - well before I saw your name at the side.

Chris

[Minnie M]

Originally posted by Lory
Look into my eyes.......I know it's scary but the more u do it the easier it gets!

Wow Lory that is scary - but also very beautiful have you got David Bowie eyes

[spindr]

Originally posted by Minnie M
Wow Lory that is scary - but also very beautiful have you got David Bowie eyes

"Betty Davis Eyes" surely

SpinDr.

[Chris]

Originally posted by spindr
"Bette Davis Eyes" surely
SpinDr.

Yes - and a compliment in case anyone didn't spot the reference to the famous song by Kim Carnes (the song was also taken as a warm compliment by Ms Davis!)

[Minnie M]

Originally posted by Chris
Yes - and a compliment in case anyone didn't spot the reference to the famous song by Kim Carnes (the song was also taken as a warm compliment by Ms Davis!)

methinks The Hon Chris has a thing for blonds have you met the lovely Lory yet - she IS a bit of a boombshell

[Gadget]

mmmmmmm... Lory:If we ever dance, would you take offense if we just did some slow, close arm jives?

[Lory]

Originally posted by ChrisA
Next time we dance, Lory, I will be looking closely - to see if you really do have one brown eye and one green eye

Chris

Yes I really DO have one brown and one green eye! its not so noticable at night as my pupils need to be quite small to get the full effect (the green ones quite dark round the edges) Incidently, as you know, I laugh a lot and screw my eyes up (not attrative) so you'll have to tell me something very serious before u look!

Originally posted by Minnie M
Wow Lory that is scary - but also very beautiful have you got David Bowie eyes

Thankyou Minnie! Re David Bowie...he's actually got different sized pupils, people always think his eyes are different colours though.

Originally posted by Gadget
If we ever dance, would you take offense if we just did some slow, close arm jives?

Love too, dancing slow is 'my thang!'

[bobgadjet]

Originally posted by Pete
I can do, just about, the beginners moves. I can, sort of almost, do my 2 intermediate moves. I occasionally dance in time with the music. Once I nearly hit a break. But the one thing I'm really struggling with at the moment is eye contact when dancing.

Basically I either find it very difficult to look at the woman (particularly if she is pretty) so do the whole dance looking at her hands/my feet. Or occasionally I'll dance with a woman who gives lots of eye contact and smiles a great deal at which point I feel I must reciprocate and I end up with this fixed manic looking grin on my face. I think it's more of a shyness/etiquette thing than anything else - I don't NEED to look at my feet.

This may be symptomatic of my lack of social skills generally but I'm wondering if anyone else has ever encountered this problem? :sorry

Pete

Don't worry Pete, it will ALL come with timne, but at least you are not looking at OTHER women, so you are on the right road.

Keep at it, and just be cool

[bobgadjet]

Originally posted by Lory
it feels to me, like they would rather NOT be dancing with me.

WHO in their right mind would rather NOT dance with you ?


C U 2moro I hope

[bobgadjet]

Originally posted by Lory

If someone say's that to me, I usually melt and forgive them a million sins and just give words of encouragement!

That'll take care of less than half of mine then ! ! !
but I s'pose it's a start

[Penfold]

Originally posted by Pete

Basically I either find it very difficult to look at the woman (particularly if she is pretty) so do the whole dance looking at her hands/my feet. Or occasionally I'll dance with a woman who gives lots of eye contact and smiles a great deal at which point I feel I must reciprocate and I end up with this fixed manic looking grin on my face. I think it's more of a shyness/etiquette thing than anything else - I don't NEED to look at my feet.


Pete

Know how you feel, I had this same eye contact problem when I first started. Ended up thinking of looking at my partner and smiling as a move just like a first move etc, otherwise I ended up not looking at my partner the whole dance... and like all moves the more you practice the more comfortable and natural it feels.

[Tazmanian Devil]

Originally posted by JamesGeary
Eye contact you can just do. Play a game where you look at her pupil then her iris color, then the whites, then a the bridge of her nose, then her eyelashes. Then do it again but change your sequence. Then keep doing this trying to do a different sequence each time,

STOP!!! Your making me dizzy!!!!!