I'm good at...

LMC · 15th-July-2005, 11:52 AM

Having decided to get back to my normal fairly optimistic (if cynical) self*, I've also decided that I don't like that dancing insecurities thread (

at me for not posting or voting on it

)

So here's a "big up" thread...

And it's NOT anonymous and you can pick more than one

G'wan, you know you want to.....

* < script > Right, that's it. I'm bored with being depressed and annoying everybody, it's only taken so long to recover because I used to have a fag when I was giving myself a stern talking to so it's taken a bit longer how to work out how to pull myself up with me own bootstraps. < /script > & apologies all round

**David Bailey** · 15th-July-2005, 12:05 PM

I'm all depressed now because I only ticked one

The "insecurities" thread is much more cheerful

**El Salsero Gringo** · 15th-July-2005, 12:07 PM

Hurrah! A happy thread for once.

Jazz_Shoes (Ash) · 15th-July-2005, 12:19 PM

How are you supposed to know if you are a good follower, leader ect. unless someone tells you. I know all this talk of insecurities wasn't too good, but i'd feel stuck up answering this poll:sorry

**Lynn** · 15th-July-2005, 12:24 PM

We aren't very good at saying we are good. I hate the bit at interviews where you have to talk about how good you are at doing things.

And if we don't say 'I'm a good follower/have impeccable personal hygiene' etc does that mean we are a poor follower and smell?

LMC · 15th-July-2005, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jazz_Shoes (Ash)

How are you supposed to know if you are a good follower, leader ect. unless someone tells you. I think i'd feel stuck up answering this thread, I think I liked the other thread better: sorry

Ash, you can't tell me that NONE of those things applies to you. Anyone who is *truly* honest with themselves, knows that there is stuff they are good at as well as stuff they 'could do better'. So why not admit the good as well as the bad stuff?

Lots of us are too good enough at telling ourselves how c**p we are - I know I am. Just trying to balance things up a bit...

Jazz_Shoes (Ash) · 15th-July-2005, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NewKid

Lots of us are too good enough at telling ourselves how c**p we are - I know I am. Just trying to balance things up a bit...

Yes, I know you were only trying to, as you say "balance" things, but I didn't really think about the other poll very much, however I think that it is harder to admit what you are good at, but i'll think and try to answer your poll truthfully

I personally don't like to talk about my insecurities, because I don't think I have as many as I used to, besides I think it makes me appear weak. I can't believe i'm posting this on a public forum, I must be mad!

**Gadget** · 15th-July-2005, 12:42 PM

Just how are we raiting "good" then?
"Not really bad" or "Stupendously amazing"

MartinHarper · 15th-July-2005, 12:46 PM

It's the luvvie thing. Everyone has to be falsely modest so that others can give them false compliments. If folks start complimenting themselves, the whole system will break down in fire and chaos.

Quote:

of some other reason which I have posted here

Because.
Best reason ever!

Jazz_Shoes (Ash) · 15th-July-2005, 12:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gadget

Just how are we raiting "good" then?
"Not really bad" or "Stupendously amazing"

Also, I picked 'i'll dance with anyone' but that's not technically true-I mean no one dances with 'everyone' ,surely??

mooncalf · 15th-July-2005, 12:49 PM

I'm good at self-deprecation. Although you're probably better than me. Actually I'm not really that good at it. I don't know why I bother trying.

**ducasi** · 15th-July-2005, 12:57 PM

I want to tick them all then write "I think I'm good because I'm delusional, am big-headed and have an over-inflated sense of my own self-worth".

The problem is that people might actually agree.

**Dizzy** · 15th-July-2005, 01:26 PM

What a good thread - I would rep you NewKid but I am not allowed.

Recently, I have been concentrating a lot on what is makes me a 'not good enough' kinda dancer that this thread has perked me up as I can think about what I am good at as a dancer (including spinning a lot!!)

Purple Sparkler · 15th-July-2005, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ducasi

I want to tick them all then write "I think I'm good because I'm delusional, am big-headed and have an over-inflated sense of my own self-worth".

The problem is that people might actually agree.

I ticked a lot of them, because I'm feeling good today.

But the one box missing that I definitely would have ticked is: Because I just LOVE showing off.

Sad but true. If I know people are watching, and I have a good partner, then nothing gives me more pleasure than letting rip. Last Friday was a case in point: Rhythm King and myself were doing a following exercise- you Ceroc without actually touching (I may have mentioned it elsewhere)- hands remain at least an inch apart, no matter what move you're doing. I was enjoying myself, but when I realised most of the people sitting out were watching and looking impressed, suddenly started enjoying myself that little bit more. Dancing well is always fun. Dancing well with other people seeing it has the added "Yes, that's right, today I am a dancing princess" factor.

Exhibitionist about covers it.

It's like buying something you love in the sales- added value of 'not only is it great but I got it at HALF PRICE'.

Lucy Locket · 15th-July-2005, 01:42 PM

I ticked 6 things, does that make me big headed, I DON'T THINK SO. I know i'm good at those so why should i humble myself. I know i'm not so hot on others but that gives me room for improvement.
We're very quick to judge but very slow to compliment. We're very good at putting people down but not so hot at boosting them.
So if you don't like yourself, think you're worthless & don't think you're any good at this dancing lark, it'll rub off onto other people & they'll think the same. So go out there & smile & give it your best shot & pat yourself on the back for all the good you do & forget the bad bits, not worth worrying about. Dancing & this forum is about having fun, if you start taking it too seriously, the fun element goes.

& NEWKID cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer up

LMC · 15th-July-2005, 01:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lucy Locket

We're very quick to judge but very slow to compliment. We're very good at putting people down but not so hot at boosting them.

So if you don't like yourself, think you're worthless & don't think you're any good at this dancing lark, it'll rub off onto other people & they'll think the same. So go out there & smile & give it your best shot & pat yourself on the back for all the good you do & forget the bad bits, not worth worrying about. Dancing & this forum is about having fun, if you start taking it too seriously, the fun element goes.

& NEWKID cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer up

The insecurities and 'saying no' threads have been educational and positive in that people have been offering support and solutions - but even so, the initial concepts were negative, so having decided not to be depressed (thanks

) I thought I'd talk meself happy and drag as many people as I could with me

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gadget

Just how are we raiting "good" then?
"Not really bad" or "Stupendously amazing"

I deliberately picked "good" as a word which could mean whatever you wanted it to (to encourage people to think at least a little bit positive

) - "perfect" would have made this thread sink without trace (and quite rightly, nobody's always perfect) and "not bad" - well, those two negatives don't always make a positive IMO...

tsh · 15th-July-2005, 02:32 PM

I only ticked two... Does this mean that I'm need to try harder, or should I be content with this???

Sean

**Donna** · 15th-July-2005, 04:02 PM

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you Ceroc without actually touching (I may have mentioned it elsewhere)- hands remain at least an inch apart, no matter what move you're doing.

Yes I've only ever tried this with Mr Barker. It's really strange at first but after a couple of minutes I was really getting into it. Plus it is a good exercise for helping some ladies to follow better. Hmmmm....maybe i should do more of that then.

**Lynn** · 15th-July-2005, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Purple Sparkler

It's like buying something you love in the sales- added value of 'not only is it great but I got it at HALF PRICE'.

There are people who won't shop in the sales 'because that's last season's stock' and then there are those of us who sale shop and are proud of it!

And I can't help telling people 'yes I got it for £4!'. (Unless of course I know they have it and probably paid more for it, cos that would just make them feel bad.)

Haven't decided yet which ones to tick on this poll. Of course my sig explains what 'humility' is - and it isn't false modesty.

I know for sure I can tick the 'petite' one though!

View Poll Results: "D***, I'm gooood....." because
I'm gorgeous	6	13.04%
I'm tall, so people don't have to scooch down to dance with me	10	21.74%
I'm petite, so people don't have to stretch to dance with me	8	17.39%
I'm a great leader	14	30.43%
I'm a great follower	12	26.09%
My personal hygiene is impeccable	24	52.17%
I'll dance with anyone	29	63.04%
I specifically make a point of dancing with at least one beginner every time	15	32.61%
I smile a lot	27	58.70%
I always let my partner know when I've enjoyed a dance	28	60.87%
of some other reason which I have posted here	8	17.39%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 46. You may not vote on this poll \| Withdraw Vote

15th-July-2005, 11:52 AM	#1 (permalink)
LMC Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In the corner Posts: 4,508 Status: No Status Rep Power: 4 Rep.: 2319	I'm good at... Having decided to get back to my normal fairly optimistic (if cynical) self, I've also decided that I don't like that dancing insecurities thread ( at me for not posting or voting on it ) So here's a "big up" thread... And it's NOT anonymous and you can pick more than one G'wan, you know you want to..... < script > Right, that's it. I'm bored with being depressed and annoying everybody, it's only taken so long to recover because I used to have a fag when I was giving myself a stern talking to so it's taken a bit longer how to work out how to pull myself up with me own bootstraps. < /script > & apologies all round Last edited by LMC; 15th-July-2005 at 12:05 PM.

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Jazz_Shoes (Ash) Little Miss Jazz Shoes Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Glasvegas Posts: 926 Status: No Status Rep Power: 2 Rep.: 324	Re: I'm good at... How are you supposed to know if you are a good follower, leader ect. unless someone tells you. I know all this talk of insecurities wasn't too good, but i'd feel stuck up answering this poll:sorry Last edited by Jazz_Shoes (Ash); 15th-July-2005 at 12:25 PM.

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ducasi Lovely Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Glasgow Posts: 9,639 Status: gone fishing! Blog Entries: 1 Rep Power: 6 Rep.: 3277	Re: I'm good at... I want to tick them all then write "I think I'm good because I'm delusional, am big-headed and have an over-inflated sense of my own self-worth". The problem is that people might actually agree. __________________ Let your mind go and your body will follow. – Steve Martin, LA Story

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Dizzy Senior Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Harrow, London Posts: 1,759 Status: No Status Rep Power: 2 Rep.: 933	Re: I'm good at... What a good thread - I would rep you NewKid but I am not allowed. Recently, I have been concentrating a lot on what is makes me a 'not good enough' kinda dancer that this thread has perked me up as I can think about what I am good at as a dancer (including spinning a lot!!)

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Lucy Locket Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: up the motorway, turn left, turn left, through the bends....... Posts: 762 Status: No Status Rep Power: 2 Rep.: 228	Re: I'm good at... I ticked 6 things, does that make me big headed, I DON'T THINK SO. I know i'm good at those so why should i humble myself. I know i'm not so hot on others but that gives me room for improvement. We're very quick to judge but very slow to compliment. We're very good at putting people down but not so hot at boosting them. So if you don't like yourself, think you're worthless & don't think you're any good at this dancing lark, it'll rub off onto other people & they'll think the same. So go out there & smile & give it your best shot & pat yourself on the back for all the good you do & forget the bad bits, not worth worrying about. Dancing & this forum is about having fun, if you start taking it too seriously, the fun element goes. & NEWKID cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer up

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