Re: Age Difference matter?
Quote from Jivecat
From the woman's point of view, it might not seem to matter that a man is 20years older when she is 20 and he is 40. But when she is 50, and in the prime of life, he will be a geriatric, impotent, 70 year old. Well, we hope not, but such things do happen
Oh so b****y true!
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Isn't the standard rule "half the guy's age and add 7"?
So a 40 year old should go no younger than a 27 year old.
If you believe in rules...
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Originally Posted by jivecat
..... he will be a geriatric, impotent, 70 year old.
Ah girly, you do have a way of making a guy feel good about himself.
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Ive married a women who would now be 47 and another who would now be 29
Ive dated a 23 yrs old and 52yr old this year
Beat that !!
I wasnt going to give a visa to one or go on a saga holiday with the other
Im 40 ! and im in my mid life crises and pround of it , assume it ends at 41 ??:whistle:
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My ex husband was 22 years older than me. We were together 13 years & had 3 children. I loved him dearly it just didn't work out in the long term.
Yes my family disapproved, yes people frowned down on us, but we were happy & within a short space of time people could see that & we were accepted as a couple.
I have no regrets!!!!!
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I think age is irrelevant as long as you have the love and trust needed for a good relationship. I haven't dated for 20 years and my husband is slightly younger than me and all my boyfriends previous were younger than myself. I've never found older men attractive! But then maybe because i'm not single and looking, probably couldn't afford to be quite so fussy if i was.:devil: Aren't we all the same age in our heads? I still feel the same as i did when i was in my 20's, i just try to avoid the mirror as it reminds me of the time that's passed.:tears:
The dancing scene does seem to diminish age gaps, i can remember going to a venue with good mates Nigel 60, myself 40 and Emma 20,so 3 generations in one car but all having a ball together. :clap:
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Originally Posted by Groovy Dancer
If the individuals involved are happy,then nothing else matters.:clap:
:yeah: :yeah: :yeah:
Its just a number! :nice:
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Originally Posted by Cruella
The dancing scene does seem to diminish age gaps,
:yeah: :hug:
it does indeed
I went to what I though was someone 40th or may be 50th party to discover he was 60
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My wife is 24 years younger than me and I know I shouldn't be reading this thread.
BUT
This thread is tooooooo depressing.I'm off!!
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Originally Posted by djtrev
This thread is tooooooo depressing.I'm off!!
Why's it depressing?
The vast majority (me included) think it doesn't matter, surely that's reassuring? :confused:
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Originally Posted by jivecat
I think relationships stand most chance of success when there is a match across a range of values, attitudes & characteristics, and age might be one of these. But not necessarily.
:yeah:
I agree, I've dated men of a variety of ages (from 8 years younger to 14 years older than me) and everytime it's the person themself not the age that is the attraction, be it a mutual interest, or even a difference, when you meet someone there has to be a connection. That connection may last for a relatively short time or a longer time, just because there may be a difference in the ages of the people does not mean that the relationship isn't valid or any less real to the people involved. We are attracted to other people for a variety of reasons, some relationships last others don't, but every relationship teaches you more about who you are and what you do and don't want from life.
Getting back onto topic
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Originally Posted by Gus
So ... what is an acceptable age difference for a bloke? AND I KNOW it can go the other way ... but I just curious as to what the consensus is.
Any age difference is acceptable - providing it's legal and there is no obvious misuse of position and most importantly the people involved are happy.
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Originally Posted by djtrev
My wife is 24 years younger than me and I know I shouldn't be reading this thread.
BUT
This thread is tooooooo depressing.I'm off!!
How did you meet ?
Age is just number when your past 35 as a women and past 40 as a man :whistle:
As a kid I was proud to be 9 and 3/4 that 3/4 being 'important', doesnt seem to bother me that much now those 1/4 bits :sad:
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The vast majority (me included) think it doesn't matter
That may be true of this forum but the one that matters is your partner.
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Age is just number when your past 35 as a women and past 40 as a man
Sorry,(I did notice the smilie)but that is complete b******s or have I missed the point?
Where did we meet?For what it's worth-at work.
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Why's it depressing?
Because my wife is going thro that "I've just turned 40" crisis and our age difference.............
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Originally Posted by djtrev
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The vast majority (me included) think it doesn't matter
That may be true of this forum but the one that matters is your partner.
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Age is just number when your past 35 as a women and past 40 as a man
Sorry,(I did notice the smilie)but that is complete b******s or have I missed the point?
You did miss the point its called 'a joke' god. :mad:
Although still fairly true , wifey 1 wouldnt tell me how old she was for first 4 months (she was 7 yrs older then me) we nearly split up over it ! (why the hell she did tell me after 4 months Ill never know :sad: several more years to endure , why did she have to tell me !:sad: :sad: )
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Originally Posted by Cruella
"The dancing scene does seem to diminish age gaps, i can remember going to a venue with good mates Nigel 60, myself 40 and Emma 20,so 3 generations in one car but all having a ball together."
:yeah:
I am in my 30's and frequently spend time with a group of good friends in the dancing scene who are in their 40's and 50's. I tend to forget their age.
I think regarding an "age limit" that is up to the individuals concerned. If we were all the same life would be boring. I've gone out with younger and older men, personally I have always preferred older as (IMHO) I have found them to be more interesting and usually know what they want out of life.
Wendy :flower:
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Originally Posted by Dancing Girlie
:yeah:
I am in my 30's and frequently spend time with a group of good friends in the dancing scene who are in their 40's and 50's. I tend to forget their age.
That's the other thing about dancing, it defies the ageing process - again, we must look to the great Frankie Manning :worthy:
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Originally Posted by DavidJames
That's the other thing about dancing, it defies the ageing process - again, we must look to the great Frankie Manning :worthy:
For any teeny boppers out there Frankie was 90 last year :worthy:
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Originally Posted by stewart38
wifey 1 wouldnt tell me how old she was for first 4 months
The day I met my husband, we both lied about our ages:really: it was my 16th birthday but I told him it was my 18th:blush: he told me he was 18 too:rolleyes: ... but when he came to my house a few days later, he caught me out, asking if I had 'a sister' also called Lorraine, who was 16?... he'd spotted my birthday cards... :eek: oops:blush: :rofl:
It took him a little longer to confess he was only 17:angry: I don't think either of us expected it to last that long to matter! :rofl:
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Originally Posted by Lory
The day I met my husband, we both lied about our ages:really: it was my 16th birthday but I told him it was my 18th:blush: he told me he was 18 too:rolleyes: ... but when he came to my house a few days later, he caught me out, asking if I had 'a sister' also called Lorraine, who was 16?... he'd spotted my birthday cards... :eek: oops:blush: :rofl:
It took him a little longer to confess he was only 17:angry: I don't think either of us expected it to last that long to matter! :rofl:
:rofl: :rofl:
good on you two :flower: :hug:
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Originally Posted by Gus
After all the furore about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes ... about the age difference (about 16 years). I was first shocked by Messr Cruise being referred to in terms that he was practically geriatric at 42 :eek: :tears: , but then the 'baby snatching' comments. On reflection I didnt think there was an issue here, possible due to the fact that I've been in a relationship with a wider age gap.
So ... what is an acceptable age difference for a bloke? AND I KNOW it can go the other way ... but I just curious as to what the consensus is.
There is 17 yrs between Linda and I, it doesn't matter one iota...I married my best friend....All say aahhhh!