Originally Posted by
CheesyRobMan
Unless you mean women who actually physically can't dance your chosen partner dance (e.g. they have no legs) then saying they can't dance is just plain wrong. One sign of a really good dancer is being able to adjust your own dancing to suit your partner's level, regardless of where that level is. Corollary to that is that one sign of a really good lead is the ability to lead your partner into any given move, within your partner's ability. It's more important that your partner has a good time than that you do. As a lead part of my responsibility is not only to lead my partner through the moves but also to accommodate her (or him) in every respect I can. This isn't just about dancing ability, it extends to physical size (height in particular), tension/frame or lack thereof, comfort, eye contact/smiling and so on. In terms of dancing ability I get more of a warm fuzzy feeling after an off-beat, repetitive, arm-yanking dance of 4 beginners' moves with a new beginner who grins and says "thank you so much, that was brilliant!" than a smooth, connected, varied dance with an experienced follow who obviously doesn't want to be there.
----------Obviously I would prefer to have a smooth dance with someone who is enjoying themselves but the latter part outweighs the former.
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