Originally Posted by
New_to_London
In reply to my non-verbal first-dance requests, here are the most common replies I can think of, off the top of my head:
AFFIRMATIVE REPLIES
1. Lady smiles, stands up, offers her hand(s), and we walk toward the dance floor.
2. Lady enthusiastically jumps up and we rush toward the floor
3. Lady nodes affirmatively
4. Lady offers her hand(s), but keeps looking around the dance floor, even as we dance
NEGATIVE REPLIES
1. Lady gives a subtle left-right nodding of the head
2. Lady gives the “no more” signal with her hand, and nods her head left-right
3. Lady gives the “I’m drinking something” signal with her hand
4. Lady gives the “two fingers” attention signal with her right hand, the stop/pause signal with her left hand, and then points to someone else. This suggests that she is about to dance with that other person, but may be open to a dance later on.
5. Lady gives the “I’m exhausted” signal, and waits for a reaction
6. Lady rolls her eyes and gives the “you’re being silly” look
Once I have established eye contact, I think my request has never been ignored. I either get a positive response (75% to 95% of the time, depending on venue) or a negative one (5% to 25% of the time).
Yes, it certainly is easier to use words once the lady is close by. When I originally started this thread, I was assuming there were simply some body language signals that I was missing. From this thread, it would appear that there isn’t a universal non-verbal mechanism for the second dance (except possibly the “raised eyebrow” look), so I may indeed need to continue with the verbal approach.
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