Invitation To Play

[tsh]

So what is the trigger?

Technically (for me, beeing a geek), it's the error between what I lead, and what actually happens. The less precise the following, the more I play. Generally this leads to chaos, as per the 2nd law of thermodynamics - so I think it's a good thing

[Gadget]

BTW a thread for reading:
Poll: Ladies taking the initiative

[MartinHarper]

Reply 2. Do you play/give room to "play" in every track?

If a dance involves open position, it has "room to play". No matter who is leading.
So, yes.

[Genie]

If a dance involves open position, it has "room to play". No matter who is leading.
So, yes.

Open position? You don't need an open position to play, surely?

[straycat]

Open position? You don't need an open position to play, surely? :

Not from where I'm standing...

[MartinHarper]

Open position? You don't need an open position to play, surely?

If a dance involves open position (or seperation), it has "room to play".
If a dance involves only closed position, it might or it might not, depending.

[Genie]

I was teasing. Sorry. My bad.

[EricD]

In my book your leading it wrong.

This might have been a snowcloned reference to the 'You're doing it wrong' internet meme ? eg LolCats and mouse
Overreaction is understandable ...

... firm manly stance with thumb lightly pressed on the back of the ladies hands ...

Years ago, I'm sure I was taught in a workshop that was the lead for a freeze ! ... which would explain the 'rabbit in headlights' response.

What I would really like to know is: what is the lead/signal for the 'all-over body-rub' move ? I'm not sure if that's its name - it seems to be a 'blues thing'. A lady (perfect stranger) 'did it for me' once at Splash, and I really want to know: what I did do to trigger it ? Otherwise I'm afraid it may never happen again ! The move consists of the man just standing there, stunned, while the lady rubs her body all over him, top to bottom, front and back. Reminds me of a video clip of Japanese masseuses (NSFW, but you know the one!), and Baloo scratching an itch.

I don't think it was the Lynx effect because that would work every week, obviously. Maybe it was a case of mistaken identity? Or just a spontaneous, random, once-in-a-lifetime thing ? <sigh/>

[killingtime]

Just don't grip thier hand with your thumb and say "dance monkey, dance"

"Dance for my entertainment and amusement! Bwaha, bwahahahaha!"

Being better at reading followers desire to play and reacting to that is one of those things that I'm always trying to work on.

[straycat]

What I would really like to know is: what is the lead/signal for the 'all-over body-rub' move ?

I'd be inclined myself to take that one as a backlead for a trip to the bar (one that will probably last the rest of the track)

[Martin]

Being better at reading followers desire to play and reacting to that is one of those things that I'm always trying to work on.

Many followers complain that "he does not give me space to play" or "it was ok, but he controlled all the moves"

IMHO to way to gauge if she wants to play, is to offer space for it, by lightening up the lead when the music slows or changes.

This in non-confrontational and you will soon see if she is "a player".

Good luck